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Randomness from the Heart: El Dia de los Muertos November 1, 2017

Filed under: From The Heart — heartwriter @ 6:21 pm

This Halloween I decided to paint my face in honor of the celebration originated in Mexico, Dia de los Muertos, or as Americans know it, Day of the Dead. I am not Mexican but I have an affinity for my loved ones who have gone on before me. Those who honor this day on November 1st, believe that at midnight on October 31st, the souls of all deceased children come down from heaven and reunite with their families and on November 2nd, the souls of deceased adults come to visit. Growing up Catholic this is very similar to the celebration and honoring of All Saints and All Souls day honored on the same first two days of November.

 

In particular my deceased, grandpa, grandma and dad play a huge role in my life. I think of one of them if not all every day. Even though it has been 38, 24, and 15 years since each of their passing, they visit me regularly. Or at least their memory along with their wisdom, love, and peaceful presence shows up among the activities and responsibilities of my days. I feel comfort and experience grace in these little moments.

 

A few years back I made a massage appointment with a woman I learned of through a friend. She sees dead people, my friend told me. I called immediately for an appointment. As the massage therapist worked on my body, she gently asked, Do you know that sometimes when I work on clients their deceased loved ones show up?

 

Uh, yes, I told her. That is the main reason I am here. Fully expecting my dad to show up I had a surprise visit from a friend who died giving birth to her twin sons in 1999. Marci and I didn’t know each other for very long but on this day she had a clear message I needed to hear. Choose joy. The timeliness and specific details of this message only make sense to me. I think of her every time I walk by a particular tree in our neighborhood or hear the seals down at the beach, two Marci memories. I feel the power of her message when I am overwhelmed with life or stuck in indecision.

We need our deceased loved ones. They support us, guide us, lead us, fill us up and console our sad or frustrated hearts as well as celebrate our achievements and joys. Not only do they represent a piece of our past they join us in the present.

 

I don’t know about you, but this comforts me and nurtures my soul. I am filled with gratitude for all those who have gone before me and who are with me now in spirit.

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Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my posts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit regularly since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

Curious about becoming a life coach or upleveling your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, http://www.slctseattle.com.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching (individuals and couples) or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com. Holding sack lunch mini-retreats since 2009. The next January 5, 2018 is sold out. Seats available for February 9, April 20 and June 8. Contact Jenny, 206 255 0463, to reserve your spot.

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Randomness from the Heart: Purge September 13, 2017

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One of the things I got rid of this summer was my heart rock collection. I intentionally tossed each rock in the Puget Sound, as pictured here, behind the fence. Can you find the heart in this photo?

This has been the summer of the purge. It began with my clothes. Four bags, sayonara. Then books. One Hundred and Seventy Two. Using Marie Kondo’s concept from her book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, I started as she suggests with the big categories, not room by room, and I released stuff that I had no good reason to keep. It wasn’t serving a positive purpose so I let it go. Ten bags of kitchen items. Two trips to Good Will, five trips to Salvation Army and ten different items placed on my curb all now someone else’s treasure. One trip to the dump. Four grocery bags of photographs and twenty seven journals. An endless amount of recycled paper.

In the pursuit of personal clarity I chose to tackle the physical items in my home and as a result the cobwebs in my mind, covering my heart are disappearing.

These things that I was hanging on to, shoved to the back of the closet, was an amalgamation of stuff that represented me in another time or I was keeping out of fear. This worry about maybe needing it one day or stressing over not having it was all in my imagination. If I get present, which is always my aim, these things are obsolete. The feelings, experiences and memories they represent live deep inside of me. No trip to the dump can change that.

Looking at something day after day that doesn’t create positive vibes, like an over stuffed drawer or piece of clothing I never wear has a way of clogging my mind. Seeing order and items that make me smile clears that space in my mind.

4, 172. 10. 2. 5. 10. 1. 4. 27. Just numbers? Just stuff? All of these things carried emotional baggage. No longer stuff to sort through, make space for, or hide in a drawer or at the back of the closet.

I see now how I have hidden behind objects. The physical space they took up in my house somehow crept into my subconscious. Now this spaciousness is not something I need to fill but rather be in, simply experience. Yesterday after clearing drawers of paperwork and de-cluttering my home office I sat down in it and colored. I created a piece of artwork with colored pencils that meant something to me.  Free to birth something that allows me to take up the space that matters. Space that inspires, motivates and nurtures.

Purging what takes up space that can be better utilized feels good. I am light all over.  Unencumbered by stuff opens up channels in my body, mind and spirit. I am breathing more deeply. I have room to dance. Space to fly.

 

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my posts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit regularly since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

Curious about becoming a life coach or upleveling your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, www.slctseattle.com.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching (individuals and couples) or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website www.mamaneedsarefill.com. Holding sack lunch mini-retreats since 2009.  The next one on September 15th is sold out but there are openings for January 5, 2018. Contact Jenny, 206 255 0463, to reserve your spot.

 

 

Randomness from the Heart: I Lose it Sometimes August 24, 2017

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Last time I showed up to this space was mid May. I wanted a break, some space in between the weekly random Monday posts. I am back with the intention to be even more random than before, and not necessarily posting on Monday’s, but to always post from the heart.

Generally even keel, typically forgiving, regularly able to go with the flow, I pop my cork and lose all sense of stability when someone honks their horn at me. I see it as a personal affront and react like a bottle rocket whose fuse has just been lit.

The other day stopped at a red light I contemplated taking a free right once I had clearance, but I noticed a man standing in the crosswalk, waiting to cross the street. I waited, too.  The driver behind me honked. A quick look in my rear view mirror revealed a teenager behind the wheel. Not sure if it was the mother in me or the neurotic who rolled down the window and shouted back to the driver, “There is someone in the crosswalk and I’m not going to hit them.”

More horn honking. As the light turns green and I watch the pedestrian begin his walk across the street she really lays on her horn and flips me off. Why I am so unglued, I am not sure at this point, but I pull over for everyone’s safety. Timing would have it that at the next red light we are next to each other. I roll down my window and proceed to scold her again part mom part crazy lady.

“I know your mother,” I yell. In truth, I don’t know her mother. I have never seen this young woman before in my life. As she cranks the music, ignoring my rants, I decide to lighten up and I begin to dance to the beat of the music. I raise my hands in the air, part mom dance, total nut case. As the light turns green and she flips me off again, I hang back to get a look at her license plate which like every good mother and psychotic individual.

I shout out her plate number, the ultimate, I’m gonna really get you move.

Wow. What is with the over the top anger? What is behind this?

At home I take some deep breaths. Draw a bath. I begin to question myself like I would one of my life coach clients. Curious about why once again I have allowed someone else’s disappointment, disapproval and judgment  to rattle me so. As the lavender scented bath water grounds me back to this earth, I realize that the horn is my hot button because I see it as someone judging me, pointing me out, disapproving of my actions. Somewhere along my path pleasing others has become a value. Not letting others down has become my hallmark.

At what point is this not serving me? At what point is this sacrificing my own well being?

All labels of mother and lunatic behind me, there in the hot bath I opened up to a new awareness. I was able to shift to gratitude for the impatient teenager. She gave me reason to go deeper and look behind my reaction.  

The next time someone honks their horn at me, I get to practice a new response. Will I ignore it? Will I turn up my own music and start dancing? We shall see. What I do know is because of that little interaction, I get to approve of myself when I think others are not. I get to proceed with self love and acceptance. No horn has to be my hot button, signal of truth or dictator of actions. Rather a signal to come home to myself.

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my posts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit regularly since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

 

Curious about becoming a life coach or upleveling your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, www.slctseattle.com.

 

Interested in life or spiritual coaching (individuals and couples) or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com. Holding sack lunch mini-retreats since 2009.  The next one on September 15th is sold out but there are openings for January 5, 2018. Contact Jenny, 206 255 0463, to reserve your spot.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Found in Translation May 15, 2017

Filed under: From The Heart — heartwriter @ 5:38 pm
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My glass heart, a gift to myself a few years back.

This morning, the day after a Hallmark Holiday, my heart is full. Yesterday, while eating a delicious Mother’s Day dinner prepared by my hubby, I pulled out the cards. Not the 52 card deck we played with earlier in the day. My hand made index card deck of the five different Love Languages.

Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, tells us that we give and receive love in our own way and offers these as the main ways: gifts, acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch and quality time.

While dinner was being prepared, I sat with my gift of a green smoothie from the neighborhood Fit Bar from my daughter and I made each family member a deck of the five love languages. I was delightfully surprised how much our fifteen year old daughter and nearly thirteen year old son got into it. They each ordered their cards from most important to least important and continued to explain their own definition of the words.

After every family member ordered their cards and shared with the family, more eye opening conversation took place. Lots of awareness of our own needs as well as for the one seated across the table. Daughter noticed that dad’s number one, pyhysical touch, was last for the rest of us. My number one, gifts, was not important to the males in the family, but came in second for my daughter as how she feels loved, not necessarily how she gives love. Lively exchanges, cracking us open to each other, erasing confusion, making space for understanding.

This morning, the day after a Hallmark Holiday, my heart is full from the unexpected gift that comes from being vulnerable and allowing others to give with their heart.

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

Curious about becoming a life coach or ready to up-level your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, www.slctseattle.com.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching (individuals and couples) or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com. Holding sack lunch mini-retreats since 2009. Next one February 3rd, contact Jenny, 206 255 0463, to reserve you spot.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Heart to Heart May 1, 2017

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Saturday morning’s gift at breakfast.

Connection. I would imagine on a variety of levels this is important to all of us. Yes?

The connections that bring out the best version of me and that fill my cup to overflowing are the ones from the heart.

No worries about what to say or how to say it or to even use words at all.

When I am struggling in life, in relationship, in function, it is because I am disconnected from myself, God, others.

On this Monday morning, the first day of May, I ask you, are you feeling connected? If your answer is, no, I invite you to pause, place your hand on your heart and to first connect to yourself. Be aware of your emotions and needs. Notice what’s going on inside. Then commit to being real and to come from a place of love in your next encounter with another. Warning: This may require putting your phone down. And be aware, connection from the heart may cause crazy things to happen. Good crazy things.

 

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

 

Curious about becoming a life coach or upleveling your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, www.slctseattle.com.

 

Interested in life or spiritual coaching (individuals and couples) or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com. Holding sack lunch mini-retreats since 2009. Next one February 3rd, contact Jenny, 206 255 0463, to reserve you spot.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Animal Wisdom April 24, 2017

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Our dog’s girlfriend stayed the week with us. And oh, look, a white heart, right there on her chest.

It is no accident when an animal comes into our lives. They possess infinite wisdom and if we are open, their presence can be a symbolic message perfectly timed for us. You pet lovers know many animals possess unconditional love. Every morning our Chocolate Lab – Wheaten Terrier dog greets me with a wagging tail, rain or shine. Buford is a bringer of love. I grew up with dogs and cats and as an adult, the later is my preference. Even though cats are not my fav, they love me, and are always drawn to me. According to my favorite spirit animal website, www.spirit-animals.com animals have messages for us. The domestic cat’s message is that of communication and believing in yourself and they represent trusting your intuition. All animals represent characteristics and traits that we also have within us. I am learning they are the bringer of light. Even the rodents and spiders who have crossed my path.

 

When are son was eight years old and his child psychologist, physician, and naturopath couldn’t help him with his anxiety we tried a shaman. Shamanism is a healing practice of the body, mind and spirit. Since the beginning of time medicine people who have a deep connection with the earth use their gifts to heal and connect people to their truth. Through a guided meditation our son, Simon, discovered some of his spirit animals. This new experience really resonated with our animal lover son. Being taught that the medicine and wisdom of these animals were things that could help him with his worries, they were also things he already possessed deep within.  He received messages from his eagle, wolf, bear, moose and dog. Encouragement to be confident, a reminder that he likes his family close, has inner strength and a fierce loyalty. These messages eased his worrying. Calling upon his animal friends comforted and guided him.

 

This experience opened me up to my own learning of my spirit animals. Then I just started noticing, oh a fox, a wild turkey, an eagle, a rabbit. I didn’t take these bearers of wisdom as accidents. I would look up their meaning and discover help with a decision. Peace and affirmation all from an animal crossing my path.

 

I don’t think anything is an accident. Signs are all around us to support and guide us. Mother Nature is so cool like that, taking care of us, giving us what we need. Offering us guidance. Even from that damn cat! 

 

What animals are crossing your path and what do they have to teach you?

 

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

Curious about becoming a life coach or upleveling your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, www.slctseattle.com.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching (individuals and couples) or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com. Holding sack lunch mini-retreats since 2009. Next one February 3rd, contact Jenny, 206 255 0463, to reserve you spot.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Not Happening April 17, 2017

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Sometimes you must surrender. I love showing up to you, blank page, every Monday, but today just can’t do it. Wish I could say I am hung over from too much Easter candy. Wish I could string something poetic in honor of what would have been my dad’s 90th birthday today. But I am exhausted from nerve medication and am going to take a nap.

No Blog today, come again next Monday.

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

 

Curious about becoming a life coach or upleveling your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, www.slctseattle.com.

 

Interested in life or spiritual coaching (individuals and couples) or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com. Holding sack lunch mini-retreats since 2009. Next one February 3rd, contact Jenny, 206 255 0463, to reserve you spot.