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Monday’s Random Thought: Peace Filled September 19, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 8:17 pm
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Grateful that candle season is here, even though I light them all year long. The light of the flame is just one of many things that fills me with peace.

This thought is not particularly random, but it is where I am today. I had other blog ideas for this Monday and none reflected where I am in this moment. On this day, catching up from the weekend of not being home, my weekend to teach, I am full. Full of peace. This makes me smile because for years I struggled to get here. Clawed and itched to find my way peacefully. Nothing on the outside is different. I look the same. I live in the same home. I have the same family. The responsibilities, dramas, joys, ups and downs have had the same recipe, perhaps with different spice, but what’s different is what’s in the inside. I am at peace because this is what I choose. I’ve got my list of things to do today, same list as a hundred times before. Same responsibilities, actually more, but I am grateful I get to do them. One at a time. I am choosing to be present and when I do that the past and the non-existent future don’t have a hold on me. No clawing to get where I want to be. No itching about where I’ve been. Struggle over. For in this very moment I am here now. I am grateful, aware, full of peace. The peace I use to try to find.

 

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

Curious about becoming a life coach or upleveling your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, www.slctseattle.com.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com, or simply call or text, 206 255 0463.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Remembering, Honoring, Living September 12, 2016

Filed under: From The Heart,Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 8:58 pm
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Heart made of sticks. A heart can really be made out of anything, can’t it?

It’s an interesting day,

It’s almost over and yet, it’s barely begun, still in my morning walking clothes, just finished breakast, and lunch should have been an hour ago, kids will be home soon, what will I make for dinner?

Each time I sit down there is a knock at the door, three times now, no one ever comes to the front door.

The phone rings, people don’t call, what is up today? Don’t they know today I was going to write?

I have been wanting more than anything to sit down and reflect.

I remember,

Marci, who died 17 years ago today, who was with me on my walk, she often is, I passed the tree she loved on her visit.

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Photo taken of Marci at my wedding, a year before her unexpected death. Her smile reminds me of how big her heart and laugh were, so full, so alive.

I have been wanting to process Rhonda’s passing, who died by suicide last month and Friday I learned when five of us gathered to light candles, laugh, and grieve all in her honor, that is how you say it, “death by suicide” not “committed suicide”.

Another call, this one I must pick up, really?

My last memory of Rhonda is from 33 years ago,  when I connected with her other friends from the past, they had memories that were new and foreign to me, I moved away, I found new best friends so did she.

Marci made me laugh,

Rhonda made me do things out of my comfort zone.

I danced with them both, one as an adult, one as a young girl wanting to be an adult.

Marci died in child birth, I never met Rhonda’s three children.

I remember how they both made me feel; strong, invincible, alive. One funny, one sad, both full of life, both now not here in body, but oh so alive in spirit. I feel this with Marci and am choosing to believe this with Rhonda.

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Rhonda at age 15, one of my last memories of being with her, attending my mom’s wedding, just before I moved away.

So many years passed in between. I never had the honor of knowing Rhonda as an adult, I want to tell her children whom I don’t know that their mother was beautiful inside not just on the outside, but I trust they know that.

I want to tell Rhonda’s mom, how many good things I remember, maybe I will leave her another voice mail, and just believe I have the right number.

I just want to sit down and reflect, the door bell is ringing, the phone won’t get still.

Marci and Rhonda, both moms, get it.

I don’t have to sit down to remember and reflect.

 

I can answer the door, stir the pot on the stove, throw in another load of laundry, send emails, take a shower or not, coordinate, plan, live this life all while holding them in my heart,

Their faces,

Their laughs,

Their spirits.

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One of the knocks on my door this morning. So blessed to have my great niece live down the alley. My reminder to live life deeply today in between the reflection, the getting on with all there is to do, the not getting to what I thought I needed to get to.

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com, or simply call or text, 206 255 0463.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Mindfulness Moment by Moment September 5, 2016

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20160905_145747-1The practice of mindfulness is being aware of what is happening, right now, right in front of and all around you.

Last week I got out of town, just me and my dog, created my own solo retreat for a much needed unplugging so I could plug into me. During those 46 hours hanging out with me, myself and I, it was very clear that the only thing standing in my way of reaching my goals, living peacefully and being all I desire to be is a lack of mindful living. I allow my highly distracted mind and over enthusiastic energetic personality to take me down the road, down the rabbit hole or in the case of last week on my solo retreat, down the river.

On a lovely quiet morning walk through the woods and down to the river I was throwing the tennis ball for my dog Buford. He was off leash and as we walked, I tossed the ball ahead on our path. Bu would prance like a deer or sprint like a Greyhound, even though he is a Wheaten Terrier – Chocolate Lab mix, and return the ball to me so I could throw it again. When we got to the river he was thirsty and I noticed the ball was covered in dirt and leaves. As he stepped in to the water for a drink, not being mindful I threw the ball in to the water to give it a bath and clean off all it had collected in its path.

Aware of the fast rapids just beyond where Buford was drinking, I hollered at him, “Ball. Get your ball.” He was thirsty. This was his time to drink. He was in no hurry to get the ball as it ever so slowly began to make its way to the fast part of the river.

I kept trying to get his attention. “Bu. Ball.” One thing I love about dogs is that they are wonderful teachers of being present. He was attentive only to what was in front of him. I soon realized the ball would a goner. Once it left the calm area where Buford was drinking it would no longer be possible to get. I had to let go.

I laughed to myself. I thought you were going to work on being more mindful and present, Jenny?

A great reminder and lesson that I can think before I act, pause before I speak, breathe before taking action.

In this case, I only lost a tennis ball. But the lesson reminded me to be awake, be mindful, pay attention. I am incorporating this now in all areas of my life. The phone rings or buzzes with a text, think-pause-breathe, do I have to look at it now, can it wait? This is taking practice. In my practice I am becoming more of the peaceful person I desire to be by simply being more mindful.

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com, or simply call or text, 206 255 0463.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: A Step August 29, 2016

Filed under: From The Heart,Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 3:51 pm
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A reader sent me this lovely one found in her path, not an obstacle, a sign to keep moving forward!

“I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.” – Thomas Alva Edison

Often when it comes to reaching a goal, fulfilling a dream, living out a desired thought we stay standing still for fear of making the wrong step. Thomas Edison, a man who knows a thing or two about getting shit done, offers an enlightened approach. In his quote above it is as if he is whispering, Move your feet and if that is the wrong step, great, you still have moved your feet.

What is paralyzing you from moving forward? Whatever it is, fear, anxiety, perfection, dread, invite it along for the ride if it won’t get out of the way. Step anyway with that nagging bugger at your side.

 

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com, or simply call or text, 206 255 0463.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Oh, Where Do I Begin? August 22, 2016

Filed under: From The Heart — heartwriter @ 3:45 pm
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I am the lover of walks with my dog Buford and I am so grateful for discovering this heart, high up on a tree Sunday morning. Although I pass this tree often, I love that this was a new discovery.

This post is inspired by and dedicated to my student at Seattle Life Coach Training, Becky. Becky is full of love and teaching her one weekend recently she shared with me a “game” she plays with loved ones. It all starts with, “I am the Lover of…” and you fill in the blank. She is creating a Blog with the same title, I can’t wait to see it and I will share it here with you.

What am I the lover of she asks, oh, where do I begin, I reply.

I am the lover of all things in the shape of a heart, form of a cup or figure of an angel.

I am the lover of going deep with laughter, feelings, expression and of course words.

I am the lover of my hubby’s hair, the whiter it gets the more excited I become. I am the lover of how he supports me, makes me laugh like no other and finishes my sentences, even when he picks the wrong words. I love how he is my best friend. I love how I have ten best friends but he is the one I get to share a bed with even though I am not a lover of sharing a bed with anyone.

I am the lover of my daughter’s strong sense of herself, sweet voice and hearty hugs.

I am the lover of my son’s vulnerable heart, chocolate eyes and cheeky kisses.

I am the lover of the messiness of divorce, mental illness and family dysfunction for it brought me to grace.

I am the lover of all things that represent God, for me that begins with the moon, the trees, communion, all that I can’t see and all that I feel deep in my gut down to my toes.

I am the lover of this life as it continues to unfold within me, above me, through me, in front of me and all around, even in the dark corners.

I am the lover of first drafts and even more so, the lover of do-overs.

I leave you dear reader, with this first draft as I brew another cup of tea and make pancakes for my children, who I am more the lover of when they sleep in late like this, which reminds me, I left out my favorite topic, food. I will leave you wondering what food I am the lover of as you create your own list of all that captures your heart and fills your soul. I have not yet told you, my favorite phrase is the one that ends with a question, so dear reader, what are you the lover of?

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com, or simply call or text, 206 255 0463.

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Can We Keep it Positive? August 15, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 10:59 pm
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I love the heart photos you all send me, thank you. This one captured on a Pacific Northwest hike.

This weekend at my daughter’s out of state soccer tournament I was struck by the amount of negativity coming from the sidelines. Parents have no filter yelling at refs, players, each other. I had a no filter moment, I regret.

My daughter and her opponent were going after the ball, a good battle, when the other player hooked her arm into my daughter’s arm. This wasn’t square dancing. I reacted without thinking by yelling, “Don’t you dare touch my daughter like that.”

A bit too much. Mama Bear didn’t like how her cub was being treated. Our coach and my husband immediately told me to hush. I did. I wasn’t proud of my over the top reaction. The girl wasn’t called for a foul and she continued to play dirty the rest of the game. I had to let it go. And I did.

During the fifth game of the weekend, the final championship yesterday, as I paced the sidelines I was blown away by the negativity coming from the parents. Their coach was yelling rudely at his players and they would tell him to “shut up.” The players were anything, but positive to each other. I wouldn’t want to play on a team that talked to each other with such disrespect.

The part that really rubbed me the wrong way is that they were winning with crappy spirits. They were a strong, talented team and they had shitty sportsmanship and negative attitudes. I had to let it go. It was hard.

At the end of the game, when we lost 2 – 0, our coach told the girls she would much rather coach her team and lose then coach that team and win. That helped me to let it go. Winning is awesome, but being kind goes a lot further in this world, you just may not get a trophy for it. And you may have to witness those you love fight their own battles.

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

 

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

 

Monday’s Random Thought: What Can I Learn? August 8, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 8:51 pm
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Someone else’s discovery sent my way. Makes me smile when you readers send me hearts, thank you.

No one likes to be angry or frustrated? It would be uncommon for us to delight in jealousy, sadness, doubt, or fear. These emotions aren’t on the top ten list of how people desire to feel nor are they things people long to experience. They are however, a part of life. These feelings can surface more often than we desire. Instead of ignoring them we can learn from them. All emotions are our teachers, even the ugly, uncomfortable ones.  

I recently had the opportunity to learn from my anger. Instead of hushing it I got in touch with it and became curious about it even showing up.  It was here to offer me a lesson and I had a choice whether or not I would receive its blessing. It was a gift for me to open. I became the talk show host in my mind and interviewed it. Asking it all sorts of questions. Poking and prodding with inquisitiveness.  It provided me with clarity, giving me the space to practice patience, offer forgiveness and find my voice.

I have learned over and over that undesirable emotions will continue to surface until I have fully received their lesson. Is there a lesson out there for you to learn as it invites you to grow with it’s unwanted appearance? Instead of being in a rush to make it disappear, what would unfold if you got curious about the opportunity and embraced its lesson?

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)