A few years back I was frustrated with a certain family member (don’t worry not the 2 – 4 who occasionally read this). I was frustrated with their attitude, their negative nature. My panties would get all bunched up when I thought about them.
A wise woman told me to gather all the love in my heart I had for my family and imagine it forming into a ball of light. Then to envision that ball of light traveling to that person I was frustrated with and imagine the light circling them with love. No words. No wishes. No prayers for them to change. Just light. Warm, bright healing light.
Guess what happened? They didn’t change. I did. Their negative energy stopped turning me sour. Although I am an incredibly hopeful person on one hand I also believe people don’t change. If they don’t want to or don’t see a problem with the way they are… why should they? The only person I can be responsible for is myself.
This morning in the shower I heard the kids yelling at each other, arguing over something. Instead of yelling at them to shut up, to knock it off, to cool it, to call it quits, to stop it…I stood there with the warm water falling down on my head and I gathered light in my heart. I thought of my husband, my daughter, my son and all of the love I feel for them and imagined that love forming a ray of light that traveled out of the shower, out the bathroom door, down the hall to the kids’ room. I envisioned the light bathing them with love. I waited. I kept beaming them light. It was quiet. I didn’t yell. I continued with my shower. When I stepped out, all was still quiet. A little bit later, after I was dressed, the arguing began again. But it was polite arguing. They worked it out on their own.
I CHANGED. I didn’t step in, I didn’t yell. I stayed out of it and simply sent them healing light. They will argue again. They will yell at each other. They are brother and sister, doing what brothers and sisters do. I can’t change that. But during that next time, I will remember how sending light worked this time and I will send them more light.