Many years ago I went through training to become a Cabrini Minister. (A volunteer in the Catholic Community.) The number one thing I got out of that experience was the education I received on LISTENING. The lessons are life giving.
Before the training I thought I was a really great listener. The truth is I put a lot of energy into looking like a good listener. Big difference. I would make sure my eyes were open big and wide, my head was bobbing up and down and while the other person was speaking I was forming words in my head, ready to give big advice.
Most people don’t want big advice, if they do, they ask. Mostly people just want to be listened to – to be really heard.
There is no greater gift than to be truly heard. That is so different than being understood and sometimes right in the moment of it all, being heard is all you need.