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Good Life March 31, 2012

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It’s pouring down rain like Seattle’s reputation has earned itself. My belly is full from a homemade crepe breakfast. One child is in the shower, the other on the computer, as I sit all cozy in my pajamas reading Little Bee by Chris Cleave. Our dog rests at my feet as more rain comes down hard.

Feeling whole, aware, appreciative and like this is enough to hold. Perfect really, on comes a song on the radio that the kids and I love to crank up – Good Life by One Republic.

 

Oh, this has gotta be the good life

This has gotta be the good life

This could really be a good life, good life

Living the good life doesn’t have to mean living in the big house, fat bank account, all dreams reached and fulfilled. It means loving the life you’re in and if you don’t, doing something about it.  For me it means having dreams I am moving toward not yet checked off the list.

On this Saturday morning with my cup of tea and good novel, I am indeed living the good life.  It doesn’t need to get any better.

 

When you’re happy like a fool, let it take you over

When everything is out you gotta take it in

by J.G. McGlothern

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Silent Presence March 26, 2012

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In Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Happiness Project, she talks about lighting a candle in her office. This was one simple thing to do to make her office more pleasant. She writes, “It’s like seeing snow falling outside the window or having a dog snoozing on the carpet beside you. It’s a kind of silent presence in the room and very pleasant.”

Maybe that is why I am so attracted to lighting candles, every season in every room.

On our women retreats (www.mamaneedsarefill.com), gathered in a circle, I light a large candle in the middle of the room. Then I light another candle in the room we gather in for individual card readings. The candle light is sacred. For me it represents not only a silent presence but a visual reminder of hope and possibility. We forget to find sacredness in the little things and a candle can do that, mark beauty through simplicity.

More thoughts on candle light read my blog from May 2010, https://heartwriter.wordpress.com/2010/05/27/candle-light-prayer-part-iv/.

by J.G. McGlothern

 

 

In Between — Driving Part III March 22, 2012

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I love getting behind the wheel and driving, be it to the grocery store or across the state.

Sometimes I leave the radio off and just let the quiet of my little space envelop by being. Other times, I crank the radio and sing from the top of my lungs like I’m auditioning for The Voice, at a Karaoke Bar, or singing the National Anthem in front of a football stadium.

Those car moments between getting from place to place are mine. Often I get inspiration for my book or blogs behind the wheel, solve big issues and other times I just rejuvenate, chill in the moment.

Yesterday at a new yoga place (Yoga Haven, aka http://sparkforgirls.com/), taught by a friend, I hung onto her words, for I know they were just for me, Remember to be aware of the in between places, getting from point A to point B. Breathe in those transition places.

I need a knock on the head, a kick in the ass to remember to savor the middle…the place between here and there, this and that.

Just hang out and breathe here before getting into the next pose, our instructor reminded us.

No one was rushing me or hurrying me along. And I must admit, not being a fan of Downward Dog, I much preferred the in between spot. The transition place is a place in itself. Vital, life giving and transformative before we are ready for the next place.

 by J.G. McGlothern

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Shine March 19, 2012

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I love how song lyrics can remind you of what’s important, bring you back to what matters, keep you real and help you center once again on what inspires and wakens your soul.

In yoga this morning the instructor played Yellow by Coldplay while we were all on our backs doing the Happy Baby Pose. Look at the stars, look how they shine for you and everything you do…

The word “shine” brought me back to the words by Marianne Williamson as written in her book, A Return to Love. She writes, We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, famous? Actually, who are you not to be?….We are all meant to shine as children do.

We forget, then a song finds us and reminds us of another time of inspiration, of words that motivate and stir you up from down deep.

by J.G. McGlothern

 

 

Entitlement – Driving Part II March 17, 2012

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At the risk of sounding sexist, I will say many women drivers, at least here in Seattle, drive like everyone else should just get out of their way.

Merging into traffic, a simple concept, takes on a whole “I-was-here-first, I’m-in-more-of-a-hurry-than-you, it-should-be-my-turn” event. “I-had-a-rougher-morning-than-you, my-car-is-bigger, here-I-come, even-though-it’s-not-my-turn” attitudes are prevalent on the road these days. One must drive, like my dad taught me, defensively to stay safe.

Do we take out our feelings of self worth, lack of confidence and insecurities behind the wheel?

Catching up with a high school friend the other night our conversation took on the theme of entitlement. She is a grade school teacher at a private school and had a hellish day. With everything she was sharing you could tell she had faced a lot of parents who expected her, the teacher, to not only teach their children, but to raise them.

Yes, they have the attitude of we pay a lot of money for private school, we can just step out of the way and let the teacher do it all, she shared with me.

Private or public schooling, parents still need to be 100% involved in the education of their students. Not doing their work for them, but instead, keeping them accountable.  Teaching them responsibility at home first. Paying more money doesn’t entitle you to forfeit your role and this was her experience over the past couple of decades. Of course not with every student, but a handful every year.

Get out of the way, I was here first. You figure it out, I paid good money.

This entitlement hangs in the air like a polluted fog and leaves me worried. I too can feed this energy with my own behavior. It’s easy to pick up my kids shoes, make their beds and wipe up their crumbs. If I don’t teach them to be responsible for their own footprints they could come to expect it.

I caught this behavior in myself today. Totally tired and in need of a pick me up I thought, I deserve to stop at Starbucks and buy myself a cup of coffee.  We talk ourselves into this deserving thing and although on one hand it might be true, on the other it’s not even near the truth. When I walk around with this attitude that is when I find myself being rude to strangers and forgetting all about kindness.

Kindness to yourself has to start with kindness to others.  At the risk of sounding arrogant I will say that is something we all should be entitled to…entitled to give, before we even think about receiving.

by J.G. McGlothern

 

Pass the Test — Driving Part I March 15, 2012

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My mom will be 80 this Spring. Although there are times when her driving makes me nervous, I still will get in the passenger seat. Plus she still earns the award I gave her years ago – best parallel parker this side of the Mississippi. I proudly exhibit this inherited skill.

All said, when she told me yesterday that she was going to attend a Driving Refresher Course for Seniors. I gave out a big, Yippee. Great idea.

Then I quickly covered my mouth.

Did I say that out loud?

We laughed hard together over the phone line.

My mom is not one of the seniors driving out there who drives too slow and doesn’t use their blinker. Just the opposite.  She drives too fast and forgets to turn off her blinker.

We all need refresher courses. And if I’m taking classes at 80, still open to learning new things, not stuck in my ways, the world will be all the better. Not necessarily safer… where do you think I learned how to drive fast?

by J.G. McGlothern

 

Wet Feet March 14, 2012

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Today it was raining so hard, I carried the umbrella on our walk to school. Despite the down pour I kept walking the dog after I dropped off the kids. I could have gone home and blamed my resistance to walking on the weather.

My feet were wet at the end of the walk and my socks had to be changed. I could have not walked. I could have stayed home and watched the rain from my window.

All I had to do was change my socks and shoes. Not really a big deal. I often put things off because I think they are going to be a big deal. It was just wet socks. I didn’t melt in the rain.

I walked through my front door refreshed. Awake to the day. Or was that just my cold feet?

by J.G. McGlothern