The F word scares people. Not that F word, the other one. The one that comes with the realization that in order to move forward in life something must be let go.
I think there is a misconception that in order to forgive another person, ourselves or an experience we need to forget it completely – erase if from our mind.
I see it another way. Forgiving is opening the window that has been painted shut.
When I look at the forgiving I have done in my life, I see that it is not an overnight process. Some instances it took years. Like anything that is planted and grows to full blossom it all starts with one step.
One seed. One action.
Forgiveness too, starts with one step. A slow intentional action with something as simple as cracking the window open to let in some light and cool breeze. If the window you encounter has been painted shut for a very long time, start with a chisel and just one scrape at the far corner. You may discover the ease at which the paint comes loose from the entire window pane.
After one step, then two, you will be moving forward and opening that window allowing new awareness into your world. You may find yourself staring at the window and wondering why it was even painted shut to begin with, deep inside you’ll know why, but it won’t matter anymore because now all you’ll see is an open window.
by J.G. McGlothern