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Monday’s Random Thought: Polarities June 30, 2014

Filed under: From The Heart — heartwriter @ 11:52 pm
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I wonder if a flower ever gets worn out from being beautiful all the time or if a dog ever gets overwhelmed from constantly being perky and attentive to his owner’s every move?

Probably not. Flowers and dogs seem to give, give, give. Both radiating joy without much need of anything in return except for some water, food and a bit of attention. Even without much attention they share their beauty and love with the world. No questions asked, they share their gifts with the world willingly.

Completely the opposite of humans. The thing is we aren’t like flowers or dogs because when all we do is shine bright and wag our tails for others it catches up with us draining our well dry. When we give, give, give we become overwhelmed, exhausted to the point of confusion, spent. Then there is the whole issue of humans not feeling worthy to receive leaving their needs to be put on hold due to feelings of guilt and a basic discomfort from being the recipient.

When we humans recognize the undeniable value of receiving and realize that the feelings of unworthiness and guilt are only blocking us from really seeing the beauty of the rose and experience the unconditional love of a four footed friend.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com

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Monday’s Random Thought: Sounds of Summer June 23, 2014

Filed under: From The Heart,Observation — heartwriter @ 1:04 pm

Before heading out of town for the weekend, Friday, my son and I took the dog for a walk in the neighborhood. It was quiet. I heard the wind rustle the leaves and as we rounded the corner I heard Lynyrd Skynyrd blasting from the house on the corner. Parents at work, teenagers with the house to their selves.It was the same music of my youth blasting from my teenage siblings bedrooms. I smiled at the memory of me hating their music and now of course loving it.

Throughout the weekend visiting family I tuned in to the sounds of the summer. Early morning bird song, dogs splashing in the water, a motor boat, flies buzzing in the kitchen, the lighting up of the barbeque, the thunk of a croquet mallet hitting a ball. The sounds from my children went from quiet breathing while sleeping in to laughing, just before the big crash of sibling rivalry echoed through the walls.

Ice tea pouring in the glass, slicing of watermelon, boiling water for potato salad. I can’t imitate these sounds with my mouth but I can hear them. Feel them, let them comfort me.
For a gal who isn’t crazy about summer in general I am pulled toward the sounds of the season like a dog drawn to water. I find myself smiling at the memory of dreading summer’s past and now not necessarily loving it but being in it and smiling with my heart. Lapping it up one sound at a time.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Blog Hoppin’ Wisdom June 16, 2014

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I was delighted to be asked by Corbin Lewars to join this blog hop. I love to be asked to do things, I love writing and Corbin is pretty darn awesome, so I said, “yes”. The idea behind a blog hop is to expose readers to new writers they may not know about and to chat about their writing life. Writers can be private about our writing lives, but we love to be asked about it. (We just may not always answer.)
Corbin Lewars M.Ed., is an inspiration to many as a developmental editor and writing coach based in the Ballard neighborhood of Seattle. She is the author of Losing Him, Gaining You: Divorce as Opportunity and the Washington State Book Award and PNBS nominee Creating a Life: The Memoir of a Writer and Mom in the Making. Her essays have been featured in over twenty-five publications including Mothering, Hip Mama and several writing anthologies. She blogs regularly at http://blog.seattlepi.com/singlewritermama/.

My Writing Life

Thinking about my writing life in the form of these particular questions below this week wasn’t a stretch for me because thoughts of writing are always ever present on my mind. A big part of my writing life exists off the page and in my daily actions, thoughts and active imagination.

What am I currently working on?

My first book that I have been “working” on since 2009 is my current project, ever on my mind, living and breathing it. Mama Needs A Refill: Finding Light in the Madness of Motherhood came to me while pulling on my pants one morning. The spark of an idea began as a retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, then morphed into a blog and as I continue to labor on my book, I find this a lot more painful, time consuming and messy then giving birth to my two children. It is a process and I am learning to delight in all the steps along the way.

How does my work differ from others of its genre?

My non-fiction work is interactive in that I ask reflective questions of the reader so that they can consider how to authentically refill their own cup.

Why do I write what I do?

I write what comes up in my heart and what comes up in my heart must come out. Or it will die inside of me. The words come, the thoughts stir around in my brain and I feel like it is just as vital to me as air and water. When the things I write get a positive response even from just one blog reader, one person I run into at the grocery store, one stranger’s comment, I am encouraged and inspired to keep at it. I am told that my words help on a dark day, encourage during a rough patch and that is fuel to my fire. And even if that one reader is silent and doesn’t share their inspiration from my words, I write what I do because it feeds my soul and ignites my own fire.

How does your writing process work?

Driving down the highway, taking a shower, walking the dog, washing the dishes a thought will be conceived out of nowhere and I will jot it down. Then early in the morning or sometime in the afternoon I take that conceived thought and birth it on the blank page of my lap top. I feel like a big part of my writing process has nothing to do with sitting down and writing. I feel it, live it, breathe it and then it lands on the page.

Every Monday I sit infront of a blank screen and go within, asking, “What needs to be spoken today” and that is the quick birth of my Monday blog. Every Thursday I spend time with my writing partner Sonya Elliott and that is when my Friday Blog is born. But different from Monday’s blog, I have been usually thinking about what I want to say on Friday earlier in the week. I refer to notes hand scribbled in my notebook and go from there. I read this blog out loud to Sonya, open to feed back and before publishing it on Friday I may rewrite a bit here and there working it until it feels right.

Lots of my blog material is ground work for my current book so I am ever grateful for the creation of blogs. I see them as the place seeds are planted.

Check out two writers/bloggers whose work I admire and whose words inspire me:

JENNIE LOCATI started her blog, WysWords as a creative way to share her experiences as a woman, wife, mother, and friend. Her diverse life experiences have taken her to Kenya as a Peace Corps volunteer, through the halls of Microsoft, the trading floors of Wall Street, and most recently back to the world of Global Public Health with PATH, one of the most respected non-profits in the world. Jennie shares her many misadventures, occasional insights, and unique perspectives in a voice that is self-deprecating, honest, and wry. Read her wisdom at, http://www.wyswords.com.

SONYA ELLIOTT is a writer, basketball coach, fashion model, wife and mom. Her memoir, Back on the Court: A Young Woman’s Triumphant Return to Life, Love and Basketball, is her story of surviving and thriving after tragedy. Sonya blogs about writing, basketball and life at http://www.sonyaelliott.com and is currently working on a young adult novel and a book about coaching basketball. She also designed PeaceLoveBasketball gear (www.peacelovebasketball.com) to share her love of the game and love of life.

I also know Sonya loves tea. Every Thursday for the past seven years Sonya and I meet religiously to write. We make our pot of tea and fill our blank pages. This accountability partnership supports our writing passion as we inspire and encourage one another. For isn’t that what life is about, reaching out and touching another? And that is the fuel to a writer’s soul, being touched by words. Words that come from another which plant seeds that birth our own stories.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Still June 9, 2014

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Often it is in the unspoken.

Less is more.

Silence is more than golden it is life giving.

A smile, a gentle touch, a deep gaze into ones eyes, all this and then some.

Will you stop thinking before you speak and just be in even the smallest of moments today?

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com

 

Monday’s Random Thought: 4 Words June 2, 2014

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I know i have shared this with my followers on Mama Needs A Refill and today it seems perfect to share with you.

Every morning, driving to school my 9 year old son and I participate in a ritual we created that grounds us and prepares us for the day.

We take in a deep breath, quiet our minds and ask for what we need that day and ask that the anawer come in the form of two separate words.

“Mama, let’s do our words he’ll say.”

Then when one of is ready we speak out our words. Today mine were, Believe and Strength. His were, Clarity and Awareness.

I often find the words he speaks are just what I can use in that moment or for what lies ahead that day. He too, claims my words are fitting for him.

Throughout the day if I am overwhelmed, scattered, defeated in the moment, I will call upon our words for wisdom. At the end of the day we share how our words helped us get through the day.

His insight continues to blow me away daily with his willingness and maturity to see where he needs to ask for help and where he could use a bit of guidance.

Sometimes we all just need a word or two to lift us over the fence. A little step to get us over our hump.

This practice grounds me as much as it grounds my son and it is just one more thing that connects us. And isn’t that what we are here on this planet to do? To connect to ourselves, another and to something far bigger than ourselves.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com