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Monday’s Random Thought: Regardless of the Scoreboard November 24, 2014

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If you haven’t heard, a random simple post high school football game interview with Apollos Hester, check this out. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7ymriMhoj0.

After his high school post football game interview went viral across the nation this young athlete is getting praise and recongnition for his positive attitude an optimistic spirit.

A positive attitude, Apollos Hester tells us, is everything. He gets it. He is living it. It’s easy to be grateful when things go well and to be appreciative when things go our way. But what about when the opposite is true? That is when our positive attitude matters most. That is when things are turned around and miracles happen.

Where in your life can you turn things around with your gratitude, your smile and your positive attitude?

Thank you Apollos Hester for shinning your light and for being an example to those of us who forget what a little bit of gratitude can do.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She is also co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Respond with Love November 17, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 8:20 pm
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Some how I forget this from week to week, but my ten year old son can have a difficult transition time from the weekend to Monday. Since I never remember this, when he blows up at me this morning as we are heading out the door to catch the bus, I am caught off guard. That says something for being in the present moment and not assuming how others will react.

My pack-rat lovely boy decided to pack an extra pair of tennis shoes and an additonal sweatshirt in his back pack today. Not to mention the already extra pair of socks and underwear he keeps in the third pocket of his back pack. Don’t ask. It’s not raining. I won’t be making him sleep on the streets tonight or walking long distances. Apparently he likes to be prepared.

This made fitting his lunch box into his back pack extra tricky. When I offered my zipping up skills, biting my lip as to how over packed he was for a “day” trip to school which is only six hours, I allegedly messed everything all up and “made him” miss the bus. Don’t ask.

Instead of doing what I have done in the past after he yells, throws, screams and threatens to not go to school, I remained calm. Calm as a fucking cucumber. Didn’t flinch. Using my soothing, but not annoying relaxed voice as I told him, “No worries, on missing the bus, I can drive you when you are ready to go.”

Ten minutes of being mad and believing it was his mother’s fault for trying to zip up the back pack making him late left him in a puddle of tears.

Continuing to feel my feet on the floor, breathe slowly and not lose my cool, I responded with love. Sure I have responded with fear, yelling, drama and chaos in the past. But I KNEW, from practice, that would do nothing.

Driving to school he apologized, asked if we could do our morning routine of sharing our “words for the day” and spoke exactly what I was thinking, but choosing to keep buttoned lipped.

“Mama, I over reacted. I’m tired from the weekend and I do what I always do…blame others.”

WOW. I had that very thought about the blaming part but if I would have stated that in the crazy morning moment, I would have been reacting. Reacting out of protection of my feelings and wanting to be right.

It didn’t matter if he thought I “made him” late. What matters about all this, is I remembered to stay grounded so that he could find his ground again. What matters is that I love him even when he yells at me and that by staying in my love and grace for him the chaotic moment didn’t last forever.

“Mama,” he went on. “You didn’t ruin my day like I said you did and I am glad we had a longer bit of time together. Thanks for staying calm and being my mom.”

That’s the part that matters. Drama over. Love prevails. And who knows, next Monday could be totally different.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com

 

Monday’s Random Thought: In Dedication November 10, 2014

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One morning two weeks ago in yoga class I decided to dedicate my 90 minute practice, the rest of my day actually, to a woman I had just met briefly two days before at her husband’s funeral. I will never forget her face, I had view of her the entire funeral service. Her husband had died at age 32 and had been the love of her life for the last 10 years. The couple lived in New York and I only knew the young man when he was a small boy at our parish.

I introduced myself to the widow at the funeral reception and will always remember the look on her face, the quiver in her lip and the love in her eyes when she spoke of her departed husband.
For whatever reason I thought of her that Monday morning in yoga and have been inspired ever since to dedicate things I am doing to another living soul for a period of time or that day. This past Friday on my daughter’s 13th birthday I dedicated my entire day yoga class to her. It helps to get out of your head and into your heart when life is troubling you and distracting you from your dreams. Thinking of someone, holding them in good thoughts with the highest intentions switches your focus without losing touch of your vision.

I will continue to think of the widow I met on a rainy Saturday in October and my vibrant teenage daughter just as I am open to dedicate my work, actions, thoughts and day’s activities to other souls who touch my life.

We all effect each other. We touch one another and make differences in the lives of those we we meet briefly or not at all. When I dedicate my thoughts and prayers to those I have read about in the news or to a loved one, I get out of my head and have greater awareness. I live from a place that is a lot bigger than my own dreams and goals. A place with no boundaries, only love.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com

 

Monday’s Random Thought: On the List November 3, 2014

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When I shift my focus from lack to abundance I am aware of how much there is to be grateful for in my life.

This morning my ten year old son and I had more time in our morning routine than normal so as we sat, we filled up our hearts with gratitude.

I asked him as we waited until it was time to go to school, While we wait do you want to take turns saying what we are grateful for and just go back and forth naming things off?

Sure, he replied.

And so it began. Back and forth like a tennis match we named all that we could think of in that moment that we were grateful for. Filling up the space, our words, our thoughts, the time with gratitude.

I do this when I wake up and when I am frustrated or overwhelmed during the day. Instead of playing the long list of “not yets” and “what ifs” I roll out the list of “thank yous.” Even appreciative for the messy, unplanned stuff. Grateful for it all.

I find that when my energy is placed on gratitude instead of bitterness more opportunities and good stuff comes my way. That which you center your thoughts on blossoms to fullness, creating more. More love, more life, and the list goes on.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com