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Monday’s Random Thought: Supported December 29, 2014

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Working with a low back injury for a month now I know which poses to stay away from in my Bikram yoga practice and which ones provide strenth and healing. This morning in class I was feeling ready to move forward and try some of the stuff I haven’t been able to do.

I know to stay away from triangle pose. While the others continue into their triangle, I stay in Warrior II, feeling strong and capable. Only this morning, aware of how good I felt I decided to go for it and to twist into triangle. The first few seconds so far so good. I was even able to smile in triangle, “oh, yes, I have missed you.” Then untwisting and coming out, tweek.

Oh, crap. I am stuck. I can’t get up. Oh, boy I have done it. F____kkkkk!

As everyone is moving forward to the next pose I wave my hand signalling our instructor over.

Are you okay?

I will be, I just need help getting down to the ground. I’m stuck.

Her helpful hand was all I needed to ease my way down to the mat. Without her help I would have let more than one F-bomb fly and I would have been in a lot more pain. Leaning on another, accepting assistance, welcoming an encouraging caring hand, isn’t that what we all need?

Help is there. We don’t have to do it all alone. Maybe you haven’t hurt your back and don’t need the guidance of a strong hand to pull you up but maybe you have another need. A need that could easily be fulfilled by another. Because the thing is, we all like to be needed and help another, that is when we shine.
So who is waiting in the wings and ready to support you? You won’t know until you ask, right? Asking for help takes an act of surrender and the acceptance that we can’t do it all alone. We are here to lean on each other and help each other back on our feet.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Let it Go December 22, 2014

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Ten more things to do before Christmas. Let it go.
Her words cut me in half. Let it go.
I hope to get more done. Let it go.
He looks at me funny. Let it go.
She doesn’t say anything. Let it go.

In this season of list making, how long is your list of things that you think need to get done? Are you agitated by others words, actions or lack there of? What about that unfulfilled expectation? Are you trying to get too many things done and the time just seems to be ticking away faster?

Let it go.

What will it take to release the worry, stress, frustration and annoyance of the little things. Do they even matter? Are they even significant in the scheme of things?

Christmas will come regardless of the decorations being up, the holiday cards getting mailed or if you got that perfect gift or make the cookies. It’s one day. One day to BE. To honor the meaning you have for the day. A short amount of time to connect with those you love. A day of play, laughter, celebration, honoring.

Will you be too exahausted to enjoy it. Will you be thinking about everything you didn’t do or too exhausted from all you did do to even enjoy it?

I’ve had to check in with myself and ask myself is it worth it? Am I present? Am I overloading my load and missing out on the moment?

Letting go takes practice. And when I let go of the stuff making me anxious, stressed, frustrated and bitchy I am so much lighter. I am lighter, standing in the moment, aware that enough is enough and that all is well.

What will you let go of today?

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: I Love You December 15, 2014

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My ten year old son tells me he loves me at least thirty times in one day. My thirteen year old daughter demonstrates her love to me when she rubs my back and says, “I’m sorry your back
hurts, mama.” My husband speaks his love through his simple and profound way of being. I feel his love when he is out of town on business, no words needed. I have one friend who texts her love to me by sending her support and encouragement every time I teach a workshop, am giving a presentation or teaching a class. She must have my work schedule on her phone because she never fails to show her love with messages of, “Thinking of you today. Good luck. You’ll do great.”

I could continue down the list through friends, sisters, brother, mom, in-laws and more. Everyone has their own story of how they give and receive love. Some grow up never hearing those words, I LOVE YOU, and some hear it so often they take it for granted.
Love is the opposite of fear and when we lean into it, take risks with sharing it and embrace it fully we are doing what we are meant to do. We are wired to love. We all want to be loved. And it helps to remember just because we aren’t called to say I LOVE YOU thirty times a day doesn’t mean we don’t feel it that many times.

I invite you to be aware of how you give and receive love today. Where are you closed to receiving it and where are you afraid to give it?

Love. Just a random thought as I wake up to Monday, feeling love in my heart for so many things, so many people, for this life. This full, challenging, beautiful, crazy, wonderful life.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She is also co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Pick a Name December 8, 2014

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A few years ago my family and I started an Advent tradition. On the first Sunday of Advent we draw names out of a hat. The name of the family member we choose is the lucky receiver of some extra kindness that month. (Think Secret Santa, minus presents.)

Even though I drew my husband this year (don’t worry, he never reads this) I am very aware of my kindness and interactions with my kids. Advent is all about preparing your hearts for Christmas and the coming of Christ. Well, my friends God is already here, in you and in me. What would happen if we were more aware, present, attentive and kind to all those whom we meet in a day?

This reminder for me in these weeks of preparation allows me to move with greater love and to realize all the times I take my husband for granted. Instead of this being a Christmas and Advent tradition I am aware of how this can become a way of being. Moving with extra awareness, deliberate kindness and choosing to treat all those in front of me like they have God inside of them.

Who will you pick today?

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She is also co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Tradition December 1, 2014

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Yesterday was the first day of Advent (the four week time of preparation for Christmas celebrated in the Catholic church). Today, the first of December is the day Fredward the Elf comes back for a visit, popping up in different locations around the house each morning, often bearing little gifts. This weekend the kids and I decorated the house with our Christmas snowmen and mailed our Christmas cards.

Some traditions that still fill me up with the Christmas Spirit. Often we go through the motions, doing tasks and participating in activities that we have always done without thinking about their purpose, meaning or relevance in our lives.

The past few years I take each Christmas Season as it comes. Honoring the traditions that feel good, right and meaningful to me and my family. Just because we did it last year doesn’t mean we do it this year. I mail Christmas cards every other year, so this year it didn’t feel like a chore, I found joy in the task.

Fredward the Elf is a tradition we only started two years ago and this year the Advent Prayer will be read aloud before dinner instead of staying on the fridge all of December. I find meaning in mixing it up, changing traditions and taking on new ones.

I invite you to look at the traditions you honor during the holidays and ask yourself what feeds your soul as opposed to just going through the motions?

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She is also co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com)