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Monday’s Random Thought: Rain, Rain Come Back and Play August 31, 2015

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The hour late, the house asleep,

Only the dog and me sitting in the dark.

I open the window wide and let the wind blow the living room curtains.

Rain beats down, drawing me in, seducing me to stay awake, to BE a bit longer.

In the morning, dry pavement makes me wonder if it was all a dream.

Did I imagine green grass, dripping rain spouts and rustling leaves?

Was the musical sound of rain on glass an illusion?

Did I wish it so badly, I caused the neighbors power to go out?

I am home in the dark sky, myself again in the comfort of crying clouds.

The blue sky a visiting stranger, I stay in my pajamas this morning, awaiting her return.

Swaying trees tease as if to say the rain may come back or she may be away a bit longer.

Long enough for me to beg for her return.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She says, “One cannot pour from an empty cup,” and offers her clients the possibility and power of pouring for themselves, first. She is also Transformational Educator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com), where the school “trains to transform lives.” You can find her on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

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Monday’s Random Thought: Decide with Love August 24, 2015

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When faced with making a decision will you choose from fear or love today?

When faced with making a decision will you choose from fear or love today?

When I turned out my bedside lamp last night I decided to not set my alarm for my 6 am yoga class. I decided that I would allow my body to sleep, rest all she needed and that yoga would happen three other times this week.

When my hubby’s alarm went off at 5:30 this morning, I remembered my decision of the night before. Laying comfortably in bed, awake and recharged, I peeked at the clock after a bit of time had presumably passed. 5:41. New decision to make.

I live an eight minute drive from the Bikram studio. I got up, as my feet hit the floor, I thanked the stars above for the opportunity of having a choice of how to spend my morning, getting back into bed, where I would read and toss and turn, definitely not sleep or sweat it all out in a 105 degree room.

My old story is that decisions overwhelm me, I go into analysis paralysis, I pull my hair, get a pain in my neck and freak out a little.

My new story, which thank the Heavens above I pulled out this morning, is just the opposite. I drank a glass of water, took a deep breath, closed my eyes, placed one hand on my heart, one on my belly and silently asked, How can I best love myself this morning?

At first I received the answer, Both.  Signaling either way was good as long as I truly get back into bed and read, meditate, draw, write, do and be in a way that fills me, not get distracted by family and the house. I took another breath, asked again.

With total peace the answer came, Yoga.

It was at the time I put a towel in my yoga bag and filled my water bottle that I told myself a brand new story: Choose one. Decide with love and the Universe will support you. Boom!

As I drove out of the driveway with class starting in 11 minutes, I decided to believe in my choice, to not look back.

See when you choose out of love instead of fear and don’t look back you are supported. You are held up by your soul, your highest self, God, Holy Spirit, Mother Nature, whatever Energy that you are drawn to and believe in, She supports you with Love.

I arrived to class on time with one vacant parking spot right in front of the studio door. Open just for me. After class, I walked back to my car, full of even more love than when I got out of my car two hours earlier. I chose with love and I was supported.

Where in your life today can you decide with Love?

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She says, “One cannot pour from an empty cup,” and offers her clients the possibility and power of pouring for themselves, first. She is also Transformational Educator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com), where the school “trains to transform lives.” You can find her on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Sacred Time August 17, 2015

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My glass hearts, a gift to myself, cheer with their shape, color and fun way they reflect light.

My glass hearts, a gift to myself, cheer with their shape, color and fun way they reflect light.

I had the honor of attending my first Bat Mitzvah this Saturday. The Rabbi began the service by asking us to notice our surroundings of the beautiful temple where we were all sitting. He went on to tell us that spaces were not what was sacred but that time was sacred. The time spent together sitting around a table, that time with others, sharing a meal and conversation. Giving our attention to those people in front of us that is where the divinity occurs, in that time that passes. Yes, the table, the room, the temple, the house, provides a special place but it is the time that is indeed what is holy.

Another example he gave is how the many times throughout the day we are not cherishing our time but rather have our nose in our phones, distracted by social media, texting and all those activities that take us away from the moment we are in, the people in front of us.

Those moments my children and I sit with each other and hear one another. The times my hubby is looking at me and we are simply connecting. These are time honored ticks on the clock. The essence of what matters.

We are often complaining we don’t have enough time and that time moves too quickly. What would happen if we slowed down and were present to the moment and the people in front of us? Would time slow down if we were not just physically present but in the here and now, mentally, emotionally and spiritually? Would we discover that we have all the time in the world? Would we learn that time doesn’t matter at all?

During the Bat Mitzvah on Saturday the congregation was invited to exchange the words “Shabbat Shalom” with their neighbor. Wishing the other peace. Taking a moment of time to connect to another, to be present, giving our time and receiving another’s. Isn’t that what we are here to do and to be? Sacred for one another, sharing what is holy, regardless of the time on the clock or the minutes ahead of us. Standing in the present moment, connecting far beyond the ticking demands of the clock. Sacred. Holy. Life giving.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life and Spiritual Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She says, “One cannot pour from an empty cup,” and offers her clients the possibility and power of pouring for themselves, first. She is also a Transformational Educator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com), where the school “trains to transform lives” both personally and professionally. You can find her on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill and visit her website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Shake it with Love August 10, 2015

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My longtime girlfriend found this on her morning run out of town this weekend. She thought of me and posted this pic on my FB page. These little acts of love, fill us up. When you think of someone today, will you reach out and let them know? If that isn’t possible then pass it on, pass on the love you feel for them to another. (Just now typing this at a coffee shop a young man on a break from his NW Center truck job has come over to chat. I put down my tea, stop typing and engage in conversation. That’s all we want, connection to another). Where will you spread and share your love today?

Saturday night I had a hot date. My thirteen year old daughter and I went to the Taylor Swift concert in town. I bought our tickets nine months ago. We were ready. Red lipstick ready.

Let me tell you this, there is only one thing better than singing at the top of your lungs. Singing at the top of your lungs with your daughter (while holding her hand). She didn’t pull away. She didn’t tell me to stop. She didn’t roll her eyes or get sassy or even embarrassed. We grabbed hands and locked eyes while belting out,

“Can’t stop, won’t stop moving

It’s like I got this music

In my mind, saying it’s gonna be alright

Cause the players gonna play, play, play

And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate

Baby I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake

Shake it off

Heartbreakers gonna break, break, break

And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake

Baby I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake

Shake it off, Shake it off”.

I admit some of the lyrics are new to me and I usually make up my own words any way. But just watching my daughter sing along, I picked up the beat, was lightning on my feet and was able to shake it and actually keep up. There is one part of the evening that will always stick with me.

I will forget the great outfits Taylor wore, the entire stadium of 60,000 people wearing glow-in-the-dark bracelets, the order of songs, the special guests, the long line to buy a t-shirt. I will never forget the feeling in my heart sitting next to my girl. It was full. Peaceful, grateful, bursting with love for my girlie. My heart filled up with even more love for her because she had the opportunity to switch seats with my friend and be with girlfriends her age in seats far closer to the stage. She chose to stay with her mama in the nose bleed section, holding my hand, whispering thank you, rubbing my back and not saying a word when I messed up the words. (once, maybe twice)

These moments of overflowing love that fill us are something I never want to shake. I am still floating on air from our time together. Last night she was off to spend the night with her girlfriend and later today when she is home she may go off to her room. A family trip later this summer may bring on bickering and rolled eyes. But we will always have Saturday night and Taylor Swift. I will always be able to step back into that feeling of overflowing love for my hot date, my teenager, my girlie.

Love is powerful, life giving and life changing. Recall a time when you felt love all over, head to toe and I guarantee you will fill up with what matters, with all that you need. All the other stuff, you can just shake it off.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life and Spiritual Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She says, “One cannot pour from an empty cup,” and offers her clients the possibility and power of pouring for themselves, first. She is also a Transformational Educator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com), where the school “trains to transform lives” both personally and professionally. You can find her on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill and visit her website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Out of the Mouth of Babes August 3, 2015

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I received a glass heart recently from a reader who says this blog helped her through a tough time awhile back. Wow, talk about being blown away, grateful and humbled. I receive this gift like I received words from my son yesterday, in awe of this life when we allow ourselves to live from the heart.

I received this glass heart recently from a reader who says this blog helped her through a tough time awhile back. Wow, talk about being blown away, grateful and humbled. I receive this gift like I received words from my son yesterday, in awe of this life when we allow ourselves to live from the heart.

Kids say the darndest things. They say the stuff right from the heart. Those priceless sentences come flying out of their mouths when we least expect it. Faster than we can grab a pen to capture it, their witty remarks leave power hanging in the air long after the words have been spoken.

Yesterday morning, a quiet Sunday at home, my son comes running into the kitchen crying. He and his dad were having lunch in the dining room while I put away the dishes. As he rushed into my arms squeezing me tight he proclaimed, “I don’t know why I’ve been so mean to you lately.”

I squeezed him back and encouraged him to let his tears fly. “Let it out, babe.”

I joined him at the table as he continued to spill out from his heart. Not necessarily the stuff you want to savor in a journal and remember forever but stuff that really hung in the air for hours after it was spoken.

“Mom, I think I’m mean to you because sometimes your personality bugs me. You look at me sometimes when you are mad at me in ways that I don’t like. Your behaviour rubs me the wrong way. It is no reason to be mean to you but I think that is what is going on, I don’t like some stuff you say and do.”

I took a deep breath. Smiled at my hubby across the table. Rubbed my son’s head and told myself, I must be doing something right.

He was waiting for a response. So I told him, “Wow, thank you. I get it.”

Expecting me to be upset he asked, “Did I hurt you?”

I took another breath. I wanted to be honest. “Not really. Because everyone does things that bug us that we don’t like, especially those we love the most. And like you said, it is my personality, my cheery self, my upbeat attitude that bugs you. My soul, my true essence, the part of me that matters somehow gets that. No, it doesn’t hurt me because I feel your love all the time. Your love for me is far bigger than the part of my that annoys you.”

“Besides”, he told me, “I probably do stuff that bugs you and I know you love me.”

I simply smiled and rubbed his head, squeezing him with another hug.

Later that day when hubby, son and I walked home from a game of tennis at the park, I thought of something, “Your dad does stuff that bugs and annoys me and he has for the twenty years I’ve known him, but it won’t cause me to leave him or to not love him.” We all laughed there on the sidewalk.

When I was my eleven, like my son, my mom did and said things that totally annoyed me. Right? We can all relate. Instead of gracefully explaining that to her, I was snotty, moody, withdrawn, bitter and cold.

I was truly grateful my son had a big enough heart to gracefully share the confusion and  thoughts gnawing away in his mind.

This morning he told me, “I am so glad we had that talk yesterday.”

“Me too, babe.”

It was like speaking his mind allowed a wall to lift. I’m not acting any differently today except for one thing. I am not worried any more if what I do or say will set him off or bug him. It will. But we will pick up where we left off, speaking gently from our hearts, loving each other, annoying parts and all. Sounds like that’s two walls lifted. Amen.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life and Spiritual Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She says, “One cannot pour from an empty cup,” and offers her clients the possibility and power of pouring for themselves, first. She is also a Transformational Educator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com), where the school “trains to transform lives” both personally and professionally. You can find her on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill and visit her website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)