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Monday’s Random Thought: Love the One In Front of You February 29, 2016

Filed under: From The Heart,Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 9:43 pm
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The creator of these egg muffins I had the pleasure of eating for breakfast Sunday, didn’t even notice the peppers had formed hearts. I notice these things.

In the song lyrics Love the One You’re With, by Stephen Stills, I am sure the musician had a particular focus in mind for the meaning behind his choice of words. Today I am creating my own focus behind the signature line, If you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with.

Whomever you find yourself standing face to face with is an invitation to be present to that person. To connect if even briefly. Present to your interaction with them. Not present to your phone. Not the person walking behind you. Not the person or thing you will be with in ten minutes but the very person right there before your eyes. Whether it is the grocery checker ringing up your groceries or the acquintance who you unexpectedly run into buying milk and apples. Be present to the one who is standing right there. If you can’t be with the person in front of you, you aren’t being present to yourself, your life, the moment.

The one in front of you isn’t there by accident or some unfortunate disruption to your day. They are there for you to connect. And this is what makes my heart ache, the disconnection. The rushing, the avoiding, the failure to look into the eyes of the one before you. Despite those hurredly running past me I get the choice to Love. The. One. I’m. With. And even if they don’t connect with me I don’t have to let that bring me down I can choose to love them anyway.

Will you accept the invitation to connect to the person you find yourself standing with?

Hi,  I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

 

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Love at Denny’s February 22, 2016

Filed under: From The Heart,Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 1:06 pm
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No heart picture today, instead a picture of the place where I connected with my heart on a Sunday afternoon.

I love pie.

When my dad was alive he was all about getting a piece of pie at Denny’s. Best pie, he would tell me. After many visits with him and hearing about his restaraunt trips with my sister or on his own, I know it wasn’t just the pie he loved at Denny’s. My sister and I would say, Dad loves the waitresses. He did. He loved the exchanges of conversation and connecting with the people who listened. The waitresses filled him up with their caring, their connecting as they poured his coffee and brought him a slice of pie.

I love my dad.

Daddy has been gone for nearly fourteen years and I’m sure it’s been over twenty years since I last ate pie with him at Denny’s. Sunday I found myself at Denny’s. I was hungry and I didn’t know if it was for pie or for my dad. Relishing in the time by myself, taking up space for one in my big booth, I drank my tea, ate my meal and thought a lot about daddy and our times at Denny’s. And then I thought about ordering pie. The dessert menu didn’t have pie. Apple crisp, ice cream sundaes and cheesecake, no pie. It wasn’t pie I was hungry for anymore, it was my dad.

It was around my second pot of tea that one of the servers exclaimed, Look, a rainbow. Sure enough outside my window was the biggest rainbow I had ever seen. Not just part of a rainbow, the whole arc, from end to end.

As the excited server went outside to take a picture, my server came over to my table to get a better view. It was then that we learned we both last saw a rainbow in Hawaii this past December. Two strangers at the same place two times. I didn’t tell her Denny’s use to sell pie. I didn’t tell her my dad loved getting pie at Denny’s. I didn’t tell her if my dad was here he would’ve talked her ear off and listened to her tell all about her time with her young son in Hawaii seeing a rainbow on Christmas. I didn’t tell her I missed my dad. I allowed myself to be fed by what was in front of me.

I love pie. I love my dad. I love conversations with strangers. And now I love rainbows.

I don’t know if my dad loved rainbows but I know he fed me with one Sunday afternoon.

Thanks dad. Thanks for lunch. Thanks for teaching me how to start a conversation with a stranger. Thanks for showing me the biggest rainbow I have ever seen. End to end. Full of light, full of love. Tomorrow, if I am hungry, I will make a pie. For us. And maybe I’ll give some to a stranger.

Hi,  I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: It’s Just a Scratch February 15, 2016

Filed under: From The Heart,Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 6:30 pm
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It’s all a matter of perspective.

Pulling into the Leavenworth food market yesterday afternoon after our family cross country skiing adventure, I had a moment of déjà vu . My sister- in – law was driving, I was in the front passenger seat so the déjà vu wasn’t exact but it brought a time last spring when I was the one parking my car. As we pulled in Sunday, my sis misjudged the parking space and nudged the car next to us. She knew right that moment that she had scraped the silver car. I immediately was taken back to the time I knew I had scraped the car last spring parking in front of our grocery store back home.

We all got out and assessed the damage. Yep, a scrape. Walking into the small market my sis asked the customers awaiting to purchase their fresh veggies and local made butter if any of them were the owner of a silver Audi, license plate #XXX,XXX. And sure enough the young woman next in line to make her purchases spoke up.

Back in the spring when I was the one waiting for the owner to return to their car I waited thirty minutes. And when the owner learned I had scratched his car I was not rewarded with love and kindness. He was pretty pissed off and I drove home still glad I spoke up about my actions but scratching my head why I always have to be so honest.

Yesterday’s events had a completely different outcome. The young woman was grateful to my sis for speaking up and there was no need to exchange insurance or phone numbers. Over. Forgiven.

In my situation I think the forgiveness came from my encounter when the man’s tone changed over the phone in one of our conversations. He hadn’t heard back from my insurance company as quick as he’d hoped so our first conversation was anything but kind. I remained calm and kind and even in his frustration with the situation he turned soft. Without speaking it, maybe he realized I didn’t scrape his car on purpose and that not everyone would wait thirty minutes to tell him.

Two scrapes, the same size, two different responses. The man in my situation could have been stressed about other circumstances in his life. The woman yesterday could have just had a great day skiing. We don’t know the details that bring a stranger to respond the way they do. We can only show up as our authentic selves and trust all outcomes are just as they need to be. Messy. Easy. It’s all an opportunity for grace. A chance to live with your heart no matter what.

Hi,  I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Whose Agenda? February 8, 2016

Filed under: From The Heart,Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 11:54 pm
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A bag of hearts from a loving neighbor.

I had the opportunity recently to learn a lesson. It took me a few days to learn it, but I am grateful for the gift. And that is how gifts are often received, slowly, when we are ready and only if we choose to accept them.

When someone feels passionately about something and it is something that has changed their life in a positive way it is natural to want to pass that on.  The thing with that which can get lost in the passion and excitement of it all, is that our ways, are not for everyone. And it is not our job to tell others how to live.

My lesson is simply this, when someone comes into my world, meeting me on my path and I see they choose a different way than me, my job is to allow them to make their own decisions. My job is to let them be and not force my way on them. If my personal way of living and being is something they are interested in and curious about, they will ask. If I am a living example they wish to emulate they will inquire. The last thing I need to do is push it down their throat. It is not my job to force an agenda on another. My job is to trust that they are making the best decision for their journey. It is not my job to judge their journey. My job is to love. To truly love another means to not assume I have their answers. My job is to live my life authentically and allow others to live theirs. To love without an agenda means to allow another to wind their way on their path one step at a time and trust they are right where they need to be.

Hi,  I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Permission to Take the Day Off February 1, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — heartwriter @ 9:02 pm
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I have written 594 blogs since 2008. Part of me wanted to dig deep until I felt moved about a topic to write about and share with you. But the part of me that won out, was the part of me that said, “Give yourself a break, cut yourself some slack, take the day off from blogging.”

Dear Readers,

Happy first day of February. Giving myself permission to not blog today. What will you give yourself permission to do or not do?

Thanks for stopping by, see you next week.

Cheers, Jenny

Hi,  I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)