This weekend at my daughter’s out of state soccer tournament I was struck by the amount of negativity coming from the sidelines. Parents have no filter yelling at refs, players, each other. I had a no filter moment, I regret.
My daughter and her opponent were going after the ball, a good battle, when the other player hooked her arm into my daughter’s arm. This wasn’t square dancing. I reacted without thinking by yelling, “Don’t you dare touch my daughter like that.”
A bit too much. Mama Bear didn’t like how her cub was being treated. Our coach and my husband immediately told me to hush. I did. I wasn’t proud of my over the top reaction. The girl wasn’t called for a foul and she continued to play dirty the rest of the game. I had to let it go. And I did.
During the fifth game of the weekend, the final championship yesterday, as I paced the sidelines I was blown away by the negativity coming from the parents. Their coach was yelling rudely at his players and they would tell him to “shut up.” The players were anything, but positive to each other. I wouldn’t want to play on a team that talked to each other with such disrespect.
The part that really rubbed me the wrong way is that they were winning with crappy spirits. They were a strong, talented team and they had shitty sportsmanship and negative attitudes. I had to let it go. It was hard.
At the end of the game, when we lost 2 – 0, our coach told the girls she would much rather coach her team and lose then coach that team and win. That helped me to let it go. Winning is awesome, but being kind goes a lot further in this world, you just may not get a trophy for it. And you may have to witness those you love fight their own battles.
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