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Monday’s Random Thought: One Step March 27, 2017

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As one to not sit still long, a lady of action, this healing and recovery process from foot surgery has been interesting.  First, there was an unexpected second surgery. Then there was the pain.  I had a plan. I would color, read, rest, allow my body to heal as I received help from others. I would give myself a week or two to just be and then I would work on my book.

Every week there has been progress. It feels like slow progress, but movement forward non the less. It’s been a week since narcotics. Two weeks since napping all day.

Each day something new. Friday I put on jeans instead of pjs and had a phone client. Saturday I moved from the bed to the coach. Sunday I moved to the dinning room table.

This morning at my doctor’s visit I got rid of the special sock and can now open up my bandages and wash my foot!

This sounds slow. But this is progress. The moving forward counts not the pace. This is gving me the opportunity to be. The gift to receive. I am practicing patience. I am learning the value of stillness. Not always fun. Growth isn’t always joyful. That’s why they call it growing pains.

We all have our own experience of having to slow down when we don’t necessarily want to slow down. One. Day. At. A.Time. One. Step. Where in your life can you see the value of slowing it down? Is there an area in you life, a relationship or situation, where you can recognize the power or one? Simply one thing at a time. Step by step. In this slowing down we are allowing room for growth making space for birth to happen. Tis the season, it is spring. Let’s step out of the way and allow. Step. By. Step.

Today standing on one foot. Tomorrow both feet. The next day dancing. Okay, just the fox trot. Next week the cha cha. Patience dancer, patience.

 

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader, Writer, Teacher and Seeker. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2009 or this is your first blog stop.

 

Curious about becoming a life coach or upleveling your life? I am a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training. The program is transformative, the experience more life giving than words can describe, www.slctseattle.com.

 

Interested in life or spiritual coaching (individuals and couples) or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com. Holding sack lunch mini-retreats since 2009. Next one February 3rd, contact Jenny, 206 255 0463, to reserve you spot.

 

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Monday’s Random Thought: Count to 10 July 11, 2016

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In the Redwood Forest recently I found a three leaf clover, green side up on my path. Already picked, laying in the dirt. I turned it over. Beauty is everywhere, sometimes you just have to turn over the leaf.

I can be really patient with some things, some people, many situations. I can be really impatient with some things, certain people, particular situations.

Meditation has helped with my patience. Every day, if even for only a handful of minutes. Counting to 10 helps my meditation. Counting to 10 as I breathe keeps me focused. Aligns my mind, preventing distraction. If I can breathe for 10 seconds, be still for 10 seconds, be present for 10 seconds, I can do anything.

Wanting to be patient? Curious about meditation? Start with 10. Count slowly with each inhale and exhale. Then count to 10 again. If you can count to 10, you can do anything. If ten takes awhile and more patience than you have, cool, start with 5, it’s half way to 10.

Hi, I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of my retreat business, Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, one way I know I fill my cup is by showing up to a blank page to write. Thank you for stopping by and reading my Random Monday Thoughts, because I will be honest that fills my cup too, knowing others are reading my filled page. Life is too short to blog about anything else unless it touches my heart. Please know I appreciate you joining me on this journey whether you visit every week since I began in 2008 or this is your first blog stop.

 

Interested in life or spiritual coaching or want to learn more about my retreats in Seattle, please find me on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit my website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Awaken Slowly April 6, 2015

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This morning I set the alarm early, before the dawn even thinks of cracking in order to work on my book. I got up. I tried to write. I made some things happen, slowly. Not sure if I have a jelly bean hangover from Easter or if my body just wasn’t ready to awaken so early, it has taken all morning to “wake up.” My walk, my yoga, my meditation, all of my practices that feed me took longer and I moved as if walking through molasses.

Sometimes we need to be patient with where we are even if it is uncomfortable.

Do you feel like you are moving through molasses today and things aren’t moving along as quick as you like? Relax. Often our timing is too rigid that it can’t see the possibility around the corner. Trust the slow work. Be patient with the process. Give yourself a hall pass.

Believe that you will wake up exactly when you need to. Cut yourself some slack. Often the effort of trying is enough.

Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. As founder of Mama Needs A Refill, LLC, her restorative retreats for women business, she is passionate about all people, not just mamas, receiving an authentic physical, mental, emotional, spiritual refill. She says, “One cannot pour from an empty cup,” and offers her clients the possibility and power of pouring for themselves, first. She is also co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com), where the school “trains to transform lives.” You can find her on FaceBook, www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: www.mamaneedsarefill.com)

 

Monday’s Random Thought: Pick it or Kick it? July 15, 2013

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Driving my kids to swim team practice this morning, we needed a reframe. Little drama going out the front door and now in the car was a new moment. An opportunity to shift and readjust. Time to leave the harried moment on the front porch and create a new moment with new feelings, attitudes and energy.

I turned on the radio. “Pick it or Kick it?”, I inquired. We have been playing this game for four summers now on our drive to the pool. When a song comes on the radio, we take a vote to keep it or to switch the channel to a different song.

Simple rules: Want it, say “Pick”. Don’t want it, say “Kick it”. Majority rules. Driver has veto power.

When Same Love by Macklemore came on, no need for a vote. I cranked the volume.

We are trying to learn the lyrics and sing along. We are getting there, even though his rap tempo is probably always going to be too fast for me. But my little rappers in the backseat are picking it up easily. Just took a little practice.

“Love is patient, love is kind……love is patient, love is kind”, the words repeat at the end of the song. Only today, for the first time, after hearing them everyday at least twice, did I really hear them.

Love. Is. Patient. Love. Is. Kind.

That is how we got out of the morning drama so quickly and were able to transition to fun and laughter, by being patient and by being kind. We have had this morning drama before, we have gotten good at it.

But through practice, trying it again and again, we will continue to get good at picking patience and love and kindness and kicking the drama to the curb.

by J.G. McGlothern

 

Patience Ain’t My Virtue November 1, 2010

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The other day my son wanted something and he wanted it NOW. I took a deep breath and started in about how patience is something that will get you a lot further in life than impatience will ever get you. My husband walked into the room and cleared his throat.  I didn’t have to look up to know what he was wearing…A BIG FAT SMILE.  The kind of smile that says, Really honey, tell us all about patience now won’t you. I shot him a look that said, Don’t mess with me brother, I don’t need to be told about patience right now.

Then ten minutes ago my sweet daughter, who is home sick today put me in my place.  It is dumping buckets outside and our dog who has a bladder made of kryptonite was taking his time peeing.  I was outside with my umbrella following him around saying, Go potty, Buford. Go potty. Go potty NOW. Teeth gritting, grip on umbrella turning my knuckles purple.  Let’s go dude, you haven’t gone potty today, you for sure have to go.

Inside my daughter says, Mama, can I say something and please don’t take this the wrong way, but when I take Buford out to go potty you tell me to be patient, to say it once and wait while he sniffs around.  You were practically yelling at him.

Touché.  Called to the carpet right there at the front door. I didn’t take it the wrong way.  I smiled at her, thanked her and loved her for showing me in a beautiful way that her mama needs some of her own work in the patience department.

by J.G. McGlothern

 

 

Bag of Tricks April 21, 2010

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Patience, even a dab of it, makes life easier. So where do I get some?  Wouldn’t it be great if I could reach into a bag of tricks every morning and pull the Patient Card and BAM have the gift of patience be with me all day?

I recently volunteered to take on the task of creating a collage of all the 2nd graders for my daughter’s school yearbook.  75 faces needing to appear 2-3 times on one page.

I love taking pictures but projects that involve double sided tape and using scissors usually challenge my patience.

Knowing all this I gave myself lots of time.  I set up a card table, also giving myself lots of space.  Then I just dove in, one step at a time, only working on the collage in small intervals instead of all at once.  Otherwise the tendency to rush, produce sloppy work and get really impatient is just far too easy.

That’s how it can be in parenting, right?

We feel overwhelmed, crowded, don’t have enough breathing room, want our children to cooperate, NOW, making the tendency to lose our patience just far too easy.

I have lost it 3 times in the last 24 hours, 5 times in the last week. I have yelled, yelled, yelled, yelled, yelled.  Is it because my cup is empty?  Or is it because I have no patience? Patience is a tricky thing. Something I admire in others.  Something I have at times, something I deeply lack at other times.

I’ll laugh when a friend will say, You are so patient to let your kids cook in the kitchen with you.  I can handle a mess in the kitchen, cracked egg shell in the batter, spilled milk…but give me a whinny child and you might as well push me to the edge of a cliff.  Patience is not something in my possession when the kid gets whinny.  Especially if it is not the first time that day.  Then give me a project and I just want it done. Yesterday.

Even if I have taken care of myself, filled my cup and attended to my self-care for the day I can still lose it over whining or a detailed project. Oh, you bet I can.

Is it nurture or nature?  Are some of us born with a more prominent “patient gene” than others?  I marvel at some parents on the playground.  “Damn, you’re good,” I say, when a mom ever so calmly asks her pleading, whining child to stop.  “Oh, I’m not always like this”, they confess.

That’s it. Maybe that’s the trick.  Who isn’t nicer to their children when others are around?  Being more patient when others are around does come more naturally.  I should just pretend I’m being watched.

NAH. Buzzer noise. I have lost it a plenty with my friends around, strangers lurking and family present.

The only thing that will work is practice.  Practice some more. Give yourself plenty of time, lots of room and be gentle with yourself.

When I created the collage of 75 2nd graders, I didn’t say, You suck at projects, you are not an artist.  I gave myself time and space, was gentle with myself and I ended up producing a worthy piece of art.

That’s what I need to do as mother and teacher of two very awesome kids, although on occasion whiny.  I need to allow for time, space and gentleness.   Then it will be just like reaching into a magical bag and pulling out the Patient Card every time.

by J.G. McGlothern