Today is the day set aside to honor those who have served our country. A memorial is all about honoring one’s life. How do you honor those in your life who have gone on before you? What rituals do you create to remember and carry on those loved ones in your heart?
When I lived in Japan I joined a family for their annual weekend trip out to the country. At the time I didn’t know the purpose of the trip. A large group was gathering to pay respect to an uncle who had died 13 years ago. Through loose translation I learned that the odd numbered years of a loved ones passing have special significance and receive specific ritual.
As we gathered around the grave site of their dearly departed uncle, I noticed one brother pouring a full can of beer over the tombstone and another family member placing a lit cigarette on top of the tombstone. I called over my student, expecting an elaborate explanation of tradition and meaning. She explained that her uncle liked to drink and smoke. That’s it. A simple honoring of that person in their lives.
My grandparents died 30 something and 20 something years ago and I can’t pass a rose or taste a raspberry without thinking of them and their garden. My dad died 12 years ago and the mention of pie brings thoughts of my daddy to mind, every time.
We honor those we love and remember them with small gestures that keep them alive in our hearts.
Jenny Gwinn McGlothern is a Certified Transformational Master Life Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer. She is also a co-facilitator at Seattle Life Coach Training (www.seattlelifecoachtraining.com) You can find her on FaceBook, http://www.FaceBook.com/MamaNeedsARefill or visit her website: http://www.mamaneedsarefill.com