In my night time – out cold – snoring deep R.E.M sleep – dreams, I’ve slept with most of my husband’s friends and many of my girl friend’s husbands. The number of affairs I’ve had makes Hollywood look prudish. I’ve even slept with Brad Pitt and Michael Jordan. But the dreams have nothing to do with the sex…they have to do with the feelings I am feeling when I am in my dream. I am cheating on my real life husband in these dreams, and I always regret it. Duh. Even in real life when people have affairs, they typically regret it.
The point and the message here isn’t about me having dreams about cheating on my husband, the point is what are these dreams telling me? Who am I really cheating? They say, often the individuals in our dreams represent ourselves. And I swear every time I have the affair dream it’s during a time in my life when I am not carving out time for myself. I’m cheating myself out of valuable “me time.” There was a time period where my husband would ask when I woke up..…Well, who was it last night? The affairs of my dreams were representing the fact that I wasn’t making time for myself during the day.
I’m no dream doctor, I don’t even play one on TV, but it’s fun to play around with the meaning of my dreams. I have a few dream books, I consult friends. One friend recently shared that it’s the belly button of the dream that matters. In other words, at the core, at the center of the dream, what is the message, the lesson, the nugget? What are you being taught in that dream?
At the beginning of one of my favorite kid’s movies, Kung Fu Panda, Po dreams about being the Dragon Warrior. It has been his fantasy, his fascination. In real life, he indeed becomes the Dragon Warrior learning the secret doesn’t lie in a scroll but within. I’m like Po, totally fascinated, not about Kung Fu, but about dreams.
The woman who married my husband and I, would often center her sermons from the pulpit around her night time dreams. God was speaking to her in her unconscious state. God working through us in our sleep – that makes sense to me, we don’t listen when we’re awake so he might as well try when we’re sleeping. And having multiple affairs certainly is going to get my attention. The one time I dreamt I had an affair with my husband, my real life, laying next to me in bed, husband…he was ecstatic. Finally, he had made the list in my dreams.
Often I will have a dream, and have no clue of its meaning. Finding the belly button of it is baffling. So I try to focus on the feelings I was having…worried, relaxed, sad, joyous…then I see what lesson is in that for me. Many times it’s just night time entertainment and I have no idea in hell what a dream is about…I just have faith, that God is trying to communicate something to me, trying to breathe life into these subconscious thoughts, trying to wake me up.